Negativity? Not!

Happy Wednesday after Labor Day! School is back in session and busyness promises to abound. What’s a writer-girl to do? Well, I could drown in the negative aspects of the situation or focus on the positive.

Diane Lang helps out with that–check out her page and her latest article: ‘Handling the Negative.’  FYI, my good friend would like to give away a hard copy of her most recent book, Creating Balance. Here’s how this will work: leave a comment that states very specifically any technique (or techniques) you employ when dealing in negative situation(s). You may also share a positive approach to a challenging situation. You have until Friday to do it! One random winner will have a copy of Diane’s latest mailed to his/her home!

Good luck! Now, since we’re on the subject of contest winners, congratulations to Vanessa Johnson! She chose Rebecca Savage’s latest release, Guard My Body, as her prize. (That was two posts ago–isn’t it fun to win? Just wondering: why can’t a bloghost be a contestant, too, lol? This one would definitely honor the honor system…)

Okay, now that I’ve distracted you, get back to Diane’s page and don’t forget to come back here and leave your comment. (A little confusing, I know. My bad w/still not having the best command I can have of this blogging software! I’ve added a return-here link to make it easier 🙂 What can I say? I just finished reading, Joey Pigza Swallowed the Key; think the protagonist’s ADHD caught up with me!)

TTYS,

Joanna

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15 thoughts on “Negativity? Not!

  1. Thanks for the great post. Positivity in a challenging situation? Well, that’s my “middle name” right now. Seven weeks ago, at age 48, I had my first heart attack. No warning. My whole outlook on the world changed. I was a positive & friendly person before this happened. There was no reason to stop. When I tell people about my experience, I focus on the many positives I’ve found. First: I have the best friends in the world. They’ve called, emailed, brought dinners and driven me to the doctor. Next: I know more about a healthy diet than I did before. Healthy diet = more energy! New life: during my recuperation, my first granddaughter was born. I’m delighted every time someone says “you don’t look old enough to be a grandma” and I always say “thank you”. The most exciting thing about my situation is that I’ve discovered that a close male friend, who I consider a best friend, has started to discuss me with his close friends. He also had a health scare earlier this year. These two scares hit us hard. It looks like we’ve discovered something very special and the next few weeks could make a big difference in both our lives. My positive outlook on this it that we’d never have known our true feelings if we both didn’t have these scares. I now know who the silver lining in this cloud is!

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  2. I do all seven things, mix and match. Several weeks ago I started taking Qigong classes, and have finally learned how to breathe properly! So my method of choice at the moment is deep breaths…works wonderfully!

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    1. Every tip has worked for me at some point. Nature is probably my best. Pets are awesome too. I had this wonderful Great Dane–our walks (when he let me lead, lol) were the best!

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    1. Diane never lacks for good, inspiring ideas, right? Thanks, PL. We’ll be looking for your day in the bloglight 10 days from now!

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    1. Guess I’m so used to that doing that one so automatically, I didn’t think to list it. Excellent. My next step is then to do my best to place things in God’s hands and let him take over the rest. Thanks, Lara!

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  3. I don’t always do this, but the thing that works the best is to talk about it. Once I get it out of my head and into the world, I tend to see how warped my thinking is. Like vampires, negativity cannot stand the light of day!

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      • What a surprise to have you show up, RZ! I’m beyond words (okay, so that’s a stretch, lol). Excellent analogy, too.
        Getting up the nerve to talk out the negativity is a reach in itself, an accomplishment one can always be proud of, especially when I pick positive people with whom to share my negative thoughts. Sometimes just hearing those thoughts verbalized helps put them in perspective. They may not necessarily go away, but once they’re out there, they definitely tend to shrink in size and intensity. Thanks so much for stopping by :)!

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      1. The thoughts floating around in my head ALL seem real (no matter how far-fetched) simply because they are coming from within. I’ve only recently realized that they are not to be trusted!

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      1. Oh, no — I’m talking about the negative thoughts. They are the equivalent of Talia Shire in all the Rocky movies. “You can’t win, Rocky!”

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  4. Thought of this yesterday: one way of dealing reversing negative thoughts is not being so hard on myself, i.e., run a mental tape of all my accomplishments, positive personality traits, situations handled in a way I liked etc, rather than berating myself for not being where I want to be at a given moment in time.

    Then there is music—when I allow myself that gift, the right song will take me out of myself and put me in a better frame of mind. Now, there are those who’ll laugh but honestly: how can I stay in a lousy mood after listening to Ricky Martin’s ‘Cup of Life’ five times straight? And especially if I’m not driving, I’m probably dancing to that classic Latin beat? Not only am I having fun, I’ve added endorphins to the mix and changing up my whole outlook.

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