Welcome, everyone. Getting off to a late start this week–I’m starting to get how retired people are sometimes busier than those doing a 5+ day nine-to-five. Give someone a few extra hours and everyone wants a piece, lol.
Wimbledon wrapped up pretty well with the always awesome Roger Federer claiming his SEVENTH title there. Hey! He just tied Rafa’s French Open title record. Hmmm…
Photo courtesy of therisinghollywood.com
Back to business! Positive living expert Diane Lang is here to talk about a topic I deal in daily (a little better these days than in the past, I hope). Since I’m sure this is a pretty universal topic, figure I’d share it here. Thanks, Diane!
The weight loss roller coaster—Diane Lang
When we lose weight we expect to feel great! We just reached our goal and dream! It’s a great accomplishment yet many of my clients lose all their weight and still feel unsatisfied with their life. They won’t feel the happiness they expected. They get a short boost of happiness from the weight loss but after a few weeks or month the happiness fades.
A common question that my clients ask: I lost my weight why don’t I feel better emotionally? My clients will explain that they expected a rise in their self-esteem and happiness but for some this does not happen. Unfortunately, this is more common then we think. Here are some reasons for our lack of happiness:
1. Unrealistic expectations – we assume weight loss will end of all of our problems. That weight loss would solve everything. The truth is if you gained a lot of weight, there is a reason behind it. If you lose weight but don’t deal with the reason you gained it in the first place, you won’t feel happier. Odds are you will gain the weight back. Example: I have clients who ate due to loneliness. If you diet and lose the weight but don’t become more social and get support you won’t feel happier and you will eventually fall back into your old habit of eating when you feel lonely. Weight loss is great, but always look at the bigger picture.
2. Fear of success – I lost the weight, now what? We are all aware of the fear of failure but I think a lot of my clients never realize you can also fear success. A lot of clients don’t know what their next goal will be. They have put so much effort into their weight loss that they don’t know who they will be as a thin person. What will be their new identity?
Make sure to know who you are as a person. Your weight doesn’t equal who you are inside. A lot of my clients identify themselves as being ”fat”. That is who they think they are. They become comfortable with their identity. When you shed pounds, you should also shed your past baggage. Start the next chapter of your life.
3. Enjoyment – I have watched some of my clients become so obsessed with dieting and weight loss they never get to enjoy the journey or their accomplishments We need to have positive reinforcement along our path of weight loss. Make sure to reward yourself with praise and even a gift now and then. Recognize your accomplishments; be proud of your hard work. Remember, you deserve to be happy!
4. Media – be careful of the media. TV, Magazines Internet, etc all promote that happiness = thin (and young) yet we are all different. Never compare yourself to anyone else. It’s a myth that being thin means you are happy. I hate to say this but I have “thin” clients who are depressed. Just be you! We are our happiest when we are ourselves. Be true to you!
Questions? Email Diane: firstname.lastname@example.org
Join Diane on Thursdays starting July 12 at 7pm for this awesome 8 week class:
Thriving Not Just Surviving
Burlington County college, MT Holly campus
Monday, July 16th at 6:45pm – Empowerfitness- Letting go of Anger workshop
Lawrenceville, NJ 609-882-4500
Tuesday July 17th from 3-5 or 6-8 Warren Community College – Let’s Talk About Bullying
Monday, July 23 at 7pm – Create balance & Relieve Anxiety – Union County College, NJ
Thursday, July 26 at 6pm – Retirement University – Morgan Stanley, Paramus, NJ
Now if I kept that kind of schedule I’d be thin (???). And since that so ain’t so, stop back on Friday for an easy summer recipe sure to please! Have a great day!