Yep. Hate to admit it, but a new year lurks around the corner, friends. Thanks for being patient with me lately. Ever since Superstorm Sandy made her way up the east coast I can’t seem to get it together. (I’m also working on an extended post that connects to it, but that seems to have loomed as large as the storm that inspired (?) it.
So what does a blogger do in the meantime? Lean on the help of friends, thank you very much. Here is the latest from therapist, author and Positive Living Expert, Diane Lang–and exactly what this blogger needed :)! I so thank her for the today’s tips and now turn the blog over to Diane…
Before we know it the holidays will be in full swing and another new year will be on the horizon. Now is the time to start reflecting on the past year (not dwelling – there is a difference) and looking forward to a new year. As we set goals and resolutions start preparing now for success in 2013 (and still for 2012!), here are nine tips to retrain your brain for success:
1. Thoughts produce actions. Change your actions/behaviors by changing how you think. Be self-aware of your negativity. Once you are aware, you can make changes.
2. Know your triggers. What locations or people cause you stress? Once you figure out your triggers, you can set up boundaries and limitations.
3. Make positive affirmations a daily habit. Start every day with a positive thought. For example: I’m healing from an illness so I wake up daily saying, “I’m healthy and happy!” or “I’m feeling better each day.”
4. Listen to yourself talk. Remove words such as: I can’t, I won’t, I shouldn’t, I don’t want, could,would, maybe, etc. Use new POSITIVE words: I choose, I can, I want, I am, it’s my choice, I’m free to, etc.
5. Emotional detox. Remove the toxic people from your life. Moods and emotions are contagious so you want to surround yourself with positive people. If you’re surrounded by toxic people, they can drain you and bring you down.
6. Change the things you can control. When making changes work on things you CAN control; if you constantly work on things you can’t control, you will be setting yourself up for failure. You will feel frustrated and stressed. Work on what you CAN.
7. Clear your emotional debt. What old thoughts or habits are you holding onto? What need is it fitting? What new thought could you replace it with? What are you afraid of?
8. Visualize the change. What does your life look like with the new changes and thoughts? How do you act differently? How do you feel? How has your environment or people change? Visualize you with the new habits/thoughts. If you can see it, you can get there!
9. Stick with it! Be patient, kind and gentle with yourself. Change is a process that takes time and work.
As always, Diane’s thoughts and tips are right on time and I’m always grateful to have them to share with all of you! Please feel free to contact her at her website, and please consider adding one of her books to your gift-list for that special person who–like me–might need to slow down!
Have a great day and Happy Thanksgiving everyone!