Discipline V. Control (Part 4): An Opportunity to Learn

Happy Tuesday! To those of you who returning for more of this series, I do thank you. For those just tuning in, here are links to parts one, two and three–in case you want to catch up!

One more illustration on discipline, control and the idea of giving a kid the opportunity to learn, then I promise I’ll let this subject go—after one more post. (If y’all want to deal in it more, feel free to let me know in the comments, via email or on Facebook.)

This example is fresh in my mind, as it took place the week I was getting together this monster of a post, lol. My younger guy—the thirteen year-old I’m giving up for Lent—can be a little inflexible in his thinking and difficult to redirect once he has an idea in his head. I can also tell you, he’s typically not nice when he doesn’t get his way.

Like his mother, he likes order and visually pleasing spaces. One evening, he wanted to hang a curtain in the doorway between the laundry room and the semi-finished area of the basement where he hangs out to play video games. I hung the brackets for a rod there about 8:30PM and gave him an idea of how to thread the curtain onto a rod. (He got one from my bedroom closet about an hour later.)

I’d just sat down  to check email (circa 10PM) when he started calling for help with the curtain rod, which he didn’t know how to get onto the brackets. Long story short, he started throwing a typical fit when I told him I’d help him the next day. Rather than react—a.k.a. yell (and please don’t ask me where I get this stuff)—I told him he was putting me in the position of being a ‘bad parent’ if I went down to help him when he was behaving in such a manner. He blustered some more then all got quiet downstairs. Next thing I know, he came up, gave me a hug and said, “I figured it out.” (Maybe I’ll give him up for only part of Lent.)

See? This post is even shorter. (I think. ;)) Back to your experiences. What’s worked for you? What hasn’t?

Next time, I’ll take this one step further: regrouping and starting your day over after you’ve really lost it with your kids–probably the hardest thing I’ve had to do.

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Have an awesome day,


Learn WITH Your Child!

Hello everyone! Hope you all find yourselves well! Today my good friend Diane Lang extends her ‘Back to School’ tips by offering all of us ideas on being active supporters and facilitators when it comes to helping our children learn!


Encouraging your child to learn

Encourage conversation – extended conversations – keep asking the children questions, show interest with non-verbal communications like smiling, nodding the head and touch. Pat their arm or shoulder while they talk.

Encourage them to describe events in detail; let them express their emotions: Example – wow, you went to a horse farm – was it fun? What did you do there? What were the horses names? Were you excited?

Add new words with their meanings every week (i.e., “Word of the week”): use repetition to keep them from forgetting. Use real life sentences/examples so they understand. Use visuals.

Read out loud to kids – story/circle time – use books with pictures – kids are visual learners, they understand new words/stories when they can connect them with pictures

Ask kids open ended questions: let them be creative, make up their own stories, rhymes, jokes, songs, etc.

Encourage children to draw and write. Let them draw a picture and then write a story underneath. Then have them read the story back to you and ask questions. This shows your child that writing is fun!

Preparing for Back to School- August 24th  12-1:30 pm  FREE Workshop

Where: Whole Foods in Madison, NJ

Join Whole Foods Market Madison and Diane Lane, MA for tips and suggestion about the best way to prepare your child for the upcoming school year.   The end of summer break means no more going to bed late, sleeping late or playing outside till dark. This is the time when kids think new classrooms, teachers and friends.  Whether your child is starting pre-school or elementary school, it can still be an anxious time for both the kids and their parents. However if you prepare your child for school you can help sooth their nerves and have a smooth transition into the school year.  A complimentary light lunch will be served to all participants. Register via email at rcm.rsvp@wholefoods.com or call customer service at 973-822-8444

Be a positive parent – read my latest article on positive parenting tips!

FREE Meet & Greet Ingrid Prueher and Diane Lang!

When: Thursday, September 15, 2011 12:30 PM

Where: Metro Minis;821 Park Avenue,New York,NY10021

Join us for more information on our Parent Prep classes. Come meet us and ask questions about any parenting topics. We look forward to meet you!

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