You Can Retrain Your Brain!

Happy new week, everyone! Hope you enjoyed the weekend. For those of us who had spring break, it’s (hear the song in your head): “Back to life, back to reality.” On the upside, I’m looking at a few weeks until the Memorial Day break, then summer comes, extended school year program (my ‘break’ job), etc.

Life coach and good friend Diane Lang dropped another one of her gems in my inbox. Y’all know how I love to share all the positive thinking articles she passes on. Here is her latest:


Retrain the Brain – Making changes!

1. Thought patterns produce feelings. Feelings produce actions.

What you think = Feel=Believe = Who you are!

Watch what you’re thinking – it’s very powerful.

This means you can change your thoughts and control your actions. (It’s a matter of practice!)

2. What type of thoughts are you having?

You can’t make changes until you’re aware of what you need to change. Awareness is key!

Know Physical signs of negativity – The red flags of stress, anxiety, anger, etc. Do the Snap 2 Awareness Test* and find out how negative you are. Find out your triggers. (Diane speaks about this tool in her book, Creating Balance.)

3. Negative thoughts are irrational; positive thoughts are rational. A lot of character traits are learned along with habits/thought patterns. You can unlearn them and learn new thoughts/habits.

4. Clear you’re emotional debt –What are the old thoughts/habits you’re holding onto?

Why? What need is it fitting? Like fear, guilt, comfort, etc.

5. Forgiveness – forgive yourself for your old thoughts/habits, etc. You were only doing what you thought was best, you were trying your best. If you don’t forgive yourself you will hold onto past hurts, anger and not move forward. Quick way to live in the Now: forgive yourself so you can move on and forward. Forgiveness puts you in the power position, back in the driver’s seat.

Use compassion, empathy and love to forgive

6. Emotional detox – you can’t change if you’re surrounded by toxic, negative people and environments.

7. Positive Affirmations – this needs to be done each and every day. Morning and night. They are most powerful done in front of a mirror. Say them everyday until it becomes a habit. This starts changing your thought patterns.

EXAMPLE: If you think you’re no good, worthless, no-one cares, etc, then your affirmation should be: I love and accept myself.

8. Every time you have a negative thought or comments imagine a symbol that means STOP!  The hand up, stop sign, red light, etc. Something that symbolizes a change in behavior.

9. Change your words and how you talk to yourself. Remove negative words such as: Can’t, couldn’t, shouldn’t, maybe, etc. Replace with

I can.

I will.


My choice.

I’m free to, etc.

10. Learn what you can and can’t control.

EXAMPLE: I can’t control what someone says or does but I can control how I respond to it. (A great way to do so is to take a step back before responding or reacting. Takes practice too.)

11. Visualize the change – What do your changes/goals look like? How will you feel? Act? How has your environment or people changed?  Use your senses to imagine your dreams/ goals/ changes.

12. Be patient and kind to yourself – it takes time to change at least 6-8 weeks.

No instant gratification.

Be realistic.

Baby steps.

Keep up motivation with positive reinforcement.

Change one habit at a time.

*Note: The Snap 2 Awareness test is not an actual quiz but more of a tool. Wear a rubber band for a day and snap it every time you say or think something negative. At the end of the day, count how many snaps you have by keeping a tally score on a little memo pad. The normal amount is 175-200 snaps a day. Doing so helps make you aware of your negativity.

For more information visit Diane’s website or e-mail Diane at

Diane Lang, MA
Counseling Educator

Counseling Educator

Make POSITIVE a Habit!

Good day, friends! Hope everyone enjoyed what, for many, was an extended weekend. I’m extra-blessed. Mine goes through Tuesday, so I’ll piggy-back off of Julie Hedlund’s post on gratitude and include being thankful for that as well! 

Always thankful for my good friend Diane Lang’s newsletters too. My inbox never lacks for positive energy when Diane’s name is attached to the email. 🙂 Today she talked about making good thoughts a habit via the conscious practice of positive affirmations, so I figured I’d share them with all of you! 


According to Diane:

Positive affirmations are just one step into reaching your goals. It’s also a great start in the healing process. But remember, it’s just a start.

Positive thinking/affirmations don’t work alone, you need to put action into place by setting up short and long term goals with an action plan. You need to visualize your goals/dreams/recovery. You need to release fear so you can move forward and not procrastinate. You need to learn to say “NO,” so you don’t feel overwhelmed and stressed out.

What positive affirmations will do is change your thought patterns. The new patterns will become a habit. This will change your state of mind/perspective on life. This will also make you feel more optimistic and resilient. Being positive will be spread to all around you.
So, start each morning with some positive affirmations such as:

I’m Special.

I’m important.

I love and accept myself completely.

I’m in total health and wellness.

I’m wealthy. (This one is awesome, as riches can be seen in so many ways!)

I have a great job, love what I do and work with people I really like.

Each day offers great new opportunities.

Thank you, God, for the gift of another day. (My personal favorite way to wake up!)

Make sure to add Thanks/Gratitude into your daily rituals as well: I’m grateful for _______. (A phenomenally easy way to shift negative thinking and ‘start your day over’ should you need to do so at any given time of the day! ;)) 

Start today and say the positive affirmations at least twice a day. I say them morning and night along with gratitude. It starts my day off right and ends it on a positive note.

Have a great day!

Contact Diane via her website: or experience her live at one of the many workshops she conducts!

Here are some upcoming ones:

Thursday, February 23rd at 6:30pm – Positive Parent  Mt. Olive Adult School, N 973-691-0900 ext 7264

Monday February 27th at 6:30pm – New Year, New You – Starting the Year Off Right Mt. Olive Adult School, NJ 973-691-0900 ext 7264

Thursday, March 1st at 7pm – Dealing with Unemployed Stress New Caanan, CT- The CATS Group

Saturday, March 3rd at 10am – What kind of Smart Are You? Academy of the Holy Angels, NJ   201-768-7822 ext 211

Monday, March 5th at 7pm – Letting Go of Anger Parsippany Adult School, NJ  973-263-7180 ext 4342

Tuesday, March 6th at 7pm – Happiness – Living an Optimistic Lifestyle Morris Hills Adult School, NJ   973-664-2295

As always, friends, I thank you for stopping in and staying a while. I love comments, so please, take a minute and share: Which affirmations might you consider practicing on a regular basis?

Tune in Thursday for a meat-free recipe–just in time for the first Friday of Lent! And next week, I’ll finally get my DISCIPLINE VS. CONTROL series underway.

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