Mothers, Jeans and Self-Esteem

Welcome to another week, folks, and a new theme. Always a pleasure to be here and share with you! Thanks so much for stopping in 🙂

mothers day flowers 2014   Mother’s Day Flowers from all my men–I’m too short to get a good image if vase is on table, lol.

Joanna n baby boys  I’m thinking my boys were one and three (?) in this image. Now the big one is the little one, and the little one is the big one. Where did the time go?

Joanna n Niconus 05-11-2014  Older son and his ma on Mother’s Day–the other guy goes camera shy. 

joanna n hubby Mothers Day 2014   Hubby and me on  Mother’s Day :). Now why didn’t I insist on a photo with both my boys????

So last week I shared about jeans, finding that elusive, “perfect-fitting” pair (I’m sure I’ll look for a loooong time, lol) and some encouraging news on that topic via Charlotte Hilton Anderson’s blog, The Great Fitness Experiment. (Among the reasons I’ve always liked Jennifer Lopez too. In many ways, she put those of us whose back ends like to uh…hang out more than others on the map. She also very kindly helped designed a line of  jeans made to fit said folks. Thanks, J-Lo! )

Rather than drag y’all through a longer-winded post than usual last time, I figured I’d pick up with a related topic today. (I promise, people, I’m working on keeping these shorter. )

Much as I love jeans, I hate shopping for them. (I’m to the point where I’m NEVER in the mood to shop for anything—eh, maybe shoes every once in a while. I always seem to gravitate toward the same colors and styles anyway. Seriously, how many red jackets or purses can one person have?)

A couple of years ago, I was killing some time on a Saturday morning. Strolled into the local TJ Maxx and wandered over to the jeans rack. I wound up trying a tan pair of skinnies just for the heck of it, in a brand that tends to fit me better than others.

Danged pair actually fit okay, even in the trouble spots. Long story short, I didn’t like them enough to buy them. I did, however, feel encouraged b/c a pair of “skinnies” almost fit well enough to be a choice.

Met up with my mom later that day. Feeling good, I told her about the jeans. Her automatic (paraphrased) response? The jeans fit because they weren’t cut right and/or had stretched.

No way on the planet—in her brain—I could have lost a pound or two, or have walked and exercised my way into that cut.  Then I wonder why shopping for clothing is more distasteful than it should be, lol.

So go figure, a few weeks ago, Mama actually complimented me in a pair of skinny jeans. I believe she phrased it something like, “I don’t know if you lost weight or it’s the pants, but those look good.”

Whaaaat???????

Mama almost knocked me out. (Feel free to go a little LL Cool J here.  What can I say? My latest TV addiction is NCIS Los Angeles.)

Joanna n mom Mothers Day 2014   Okay. We’ll let Mamma have a spot on the blog b/c she said I looked nice in my jeans. 

So, my blogger-friends, shall we go there? Shall we talk about how our self-esteem relative to clothing all comes back to Mom, lol? If that’s the case, what helped you get past it? (For me, a single book changed a lifetime of perspective. This related blog post tells that story.)

Here’s the link to the post that got me started on this blogging jag. (It’s over at Charlotte’s blog.) I also came across this assortment of seemingly simple exercises  Charlotte authored for Shape magazine. I hope to have checked them out more closely by the time this post airs.

Have a great week, everyone!

Joanna

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Coney Island’s Infamous Cyclone and Weight Loss (?)

Welcome, everyone. Getting off to a late start this week–I’m starting to get how retired people are sometimes busier than those doing a 5+ day nine-to-five. Give someone a few extra hours and everyone wants a piece, lol. 

Wimbledon wrapped up pretty well with the always awesome Roger Federer claiming his SEVENTH title there. Hey! He just tied Rafa’s French Open title record. Hmmm…

Photo courtesy of therisinghollywood.com

Back to business! Positive living expert Diane Lang is here to talk about a topic I deal in daily (a little better these days than in the past, I hope). Since I’m sure this is a pretty universal topic, figure I’d share it here. Thanks, Diane!

    

The weight loss roller coaster—Diane Lang

When we lose weight we expect to feel great! We just reached our goal and dream! It’s a great accomplishment yet many of my clients lose all their weight and still feel unsatisfied with their life. They won’t feel the happiness they expected. They get a short boost of happiness from the weight loss but after a few weeks or month the happiness fades.

A common question that my clients ask: I lost my weight why don’t I feel better emotionally? My clients will explain that they expected a rise in their self-esteem and happiness but for some this does not happen. Unfortunately, this is more common then we think. Here are some reasons for our lack of happiness:

1. Unrealistic expectations – we assume weight loss will end of all of our problems. That weight loss would solve everything. The truth is if you gained a lot of weight, there is a reason behind it. If you lose weight but don’t deal with the reason you gained it in the first place, you won’t feel happier. Odds are you will gain the weight back.  Example: I have clients who ate due to loneliness. If you diet and lose the weight but don’t become more social and get support you won’t feel happier and you will eventually fall back into your old habit of eating when you feel lonely. Weight loss is great, but always look at the bigger picture.

2. Fear of success – I lost the weight, now what? We are all aware of the fear of failure but I think a lot of my clients never realize you can also fear success. A lot of clients don’t know what their next goal will be. They have put so much effort into their weight loss that they don’t know who they will be as a thin person. What will be their new identity?

Make sure to know who you are as a person. Your weight doesn’t equal who you are inside. A lot of my clients identify themselves as being ”fat”. That is who they think they are. They become comfortable with their identity. When you shed pounds, you should also shed your past baggage. Start the next chapter of your life.

3. Enjoyment – I have watched some of my clients become so obsessed with dieting and weight loss they never get to enjoy the journey or their accomplishments We need to have positive reinforcement along our path of weight loss. Make sure to reward yourself with praise and even a gift now and then. Recognize your accomplishments; be proud of your hard work. Remember, you deserve to be happy!

4. Media – be careful of the media. TV, Magazines Internet, etc all promote that happiness = thin (and young) yet we are all different. Never compare yourself to anyone else. It’s a myth that being thin means you are happy. I hate to say this but I have “thin” clients who are depressed. Just be you! We are our happiest when we are ourselves. Be true to you!

Questions? Email Diane: lifeline36@aol.com

Join Diane on Thursdays starting July 12 at 7pm for this awesome 8 week class:

Thriving Not Just Surviving

Burlington County college, MT Holly campus

609-877-4520

Monday, July 16th at 6:45pmEmpowerfitness- Letting go of Anger workshop

Lawrenceville, NJ 609-882-4500

Tuesday July 17th from 3-5 or 6-8 Warren Community CollegeLet’s Talk About Bullying

908-689-7613

Monday, July 23 at 7pm – Create balance & Relieve Anxiety – Union County College, NJ

908-709-7601

Thursday, July 26 at 6pmRetirement University – Morgan Stanley, Paramus, NJ

Now if I kept that kind of schedule I’d be thin (???).  And since that so ain’t so, stop back on Friday for an easy summer recipe sure to please!  Have a great day!

Joanna